Hi, I’m Karen
I’m passionate about rethinking parenting and education, and believe choosing connection and overcoming adultism is the key to more ease, calm and joy in family life, as well as lasting social change and a more peaceful world.
I offer support to parents who want to do it differently. I’m a philologist, linguist, mum and twin mum of three bilingual teens and self-directed learners, a son and twin daughters born less than two years apart.
I can help you find peaceful and respectful ways to connect with your kids and build strong relationships, so that you can be the parent you want to be, with confidence, ease and joy.
I believe choosing connection and overcoming adultism is the key to more ease, calm and joy in family life – and that rethinking parenting is the key to lasting social change and a more peaceful world.
In my coaching, courses and community, I help parents understand their child’s behaviour – and their own! – create connection, as well as cultivate consent, collaboration and trust in their everyday parenting. The parents I work with seek me out because they want to do it differently, rethink conventional parenting practices and invest in the relationship they have with their child.
Why I do what I do
Change the way you see your child and the child you see will change.
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From reading Jane Austen as a teenager, via my languages degree and a passion for travel and different cultures, to crying my way through every episode of six seasons of This is Us, I’ve always been fascinated by relationships and how people interact with one another.
For over 20 years – from my studies to my work as a translator, trainer, consultant and project manager in knowledge management, communication and learning in a large, global corporation – human relationships, behaviour, communication and personal development have been the focus of my work.
As a mum, I’ve had the privilege of shifting that focus to parenting and family relationships, experiencing the joys and challenges of parenthood, as well as what it means to build deeply connected relationships with my kids firsthand.
I was born and grew up in the southeast of England, and now live in Germany with my husband, our three children and two cats. Our children are growing up with two languages, countries and cultures.
Choose connection over correction.
Be curious instead of in judgment.
Seek collaboration over coercion.
Shift from reacting to responding.
Champion consent and cultivate cooperation.
Show compassion over expecting perfection.
My journey has taken me via attachment parenting, peaceful and respectful parenting, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, unschooling, non-violent communication and the basic understanding that children are people too, who grow up to be healthy, capable and compassionate adults when they have connected relationships with parents and trusted adults who are connected to themselves, and who are willing and able to see and value children for the growing human beings they are.
That’s why I believe it’s time to rethink conventional parenting practices, choose connection and focus on building strong relationships.
As a mum and twin mum of three children born less than two years apart, I know the joys and challenges of being a parent. I understand the questions parents have around building strong and loving relationships with their kids, as well as looking for peaceful and respectful ways to balance the needs of all family members – and I know that everyday parenting isn’t easy. I ask myself the same questions – every day! Motherhood is my biggest adventure, my greatest challenge and brings me more joy than I ever could have hoped for.
I also know that parent and family coaching, as well as the support of a community, can help with getting a fresh perspective, becoming peaceful, and parenting with confidence, ease and joy.
Parent and family coaching, as well as the support of a community, helps with getting a fresh perspective, becoming peaceful, and parenting with confidence, ease and joy.
I’ve been lucky enough to support families from around the world find more connection, ease, calm and joy in their everyday parenting. You can read what other parents are saying about my coaching and courses here.
My bio – the third-person, grown-up version
As an international, relationship-focused parent coach and mentor, relationship scholar and connection cartographer, Karen advocates rethinking parenting, through choosing connection, cultivating consent, collaboration and trust based on equal dignity in families and education.
For over 20 years – from her studies in Modern Languages at the University of Cambridge, England, to her work as a translator, trainer, consultant and project manager in knowledge management, communication and learning in a large, global corporation – human connection, relationships, communication and personal development have been the focus of Karen’s work.
As a mum and twin mum of three teens born less than two years apart, she has had the privilege of shifting that focus to parenting and family relationships, experiencing the joys and challenges of parenthood, as well as what it means to build deeply connected relationships with her kids firsthand.
In 2019, she completed her educational-psychological training and was certified as an attachment and relationship-oriented parent and family coach with a thesis on sibling rivalry.
Karen was born and grew up in the UK, and now lives in Germany with her husband, three children and two cats. Karen’s children are growing up with two languages, different countries and cultures. Besides her work, she loves spending time with her children, travelling, running, and learning new things. She loves ice cream and chocolate cake, especially when vegan, and dreams of a house by the sea.
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Before we started coaching, I asked myself: will it really help? For me, the first step was to realise that help was needed. During coaching, I felt safe and had no worries. It’s clear to me that you have to be open yourself for change to happen. You’re part of the system and can only change in small steps. Often you fall back into patterns of behaviour. Having an outside perspective helps. It’s easier as an observer ;-) In conflict situations, I now ask: What’s the need? Is it about not feeling safe? It helps me deal with it better. It’s simple. Precise terms like “need”, “feeling safe and secure”, “transition”, “connection”. That’s when it “clicked” :-) You created a friendly atmosphere, which is necessary to open up. Your input was invaluable and you responded very well to situations we described.
So, so fabulous! I’ve found the paradigm shifts that we discussed really informing my mindset during some challenging behaviors/emotional states that have come up around the end of the school year! So fantastic!
I can totally recommend the Connect with Your Child course. Karen has a profound knowledge and explains everything in an easy way. I made a big step forward. I am more confident, all the info was very, very helpful. Thank you!
I felt like I didn’t understand my daughter’s behavior, why she acted out, what was bothering her, etc. I felt helpless.
Now I feel like I understand that there is a connection between the behavior and the real issue behind it. The realization that there is something behind the behavior is huge. Now I am aware….. There still is a lot of work to do but the first step is knowing what I have to do. I feel like I have the tools to help me.
Karen’s a great personality! I know few people who communicate so respectfully with children. She really helped me with my concerns.
We were stuck in a cycle with our son, constantly reacting to his behaviour and feeling a little hopeless as parents not knowing what to do for the best.
We now have a better understanding of our son’s behaviour, how our own stress and childhood experiences manifest in our treatment of our children, what our children are ‘telling’ us in their actions, and a set of tools to manage.
Amazing! Don’t know how we would have moved forward without you.
Karen’s very empathetic and a great coach who finds wonderful words.
I realised I’d tended to leave the relationships with our children to my wife. I wanted to change that and understand my children better. I now believe I can react better in everyday situations. I recognised some old, ingrained patterns from my childhood that were preventing me from connecting with my kids.
It‘s been really helpful and supportive for us to get some feedback and to be able to rethink our methods of parenting.We‘ve had a really positive experience and spoke about how much we enjoyed it, felt comfortable and how open it was.
Feeling overwhelmed with three children under the age of two, we signed up for the Understanding Toddlers & Preschoolers course. Mealtimes were difficult, bedtimes were difficult. We were unhappy with the situation, and ourselves, and wanted things to improve. Now, after the course, we understand our children more and can respond better to their needs. The situations at mealtimes and bedtimes have also changed. We’re all more relaxed… The course is worth it! Even if you think you’re already doing a good job, you’ll learn something new.
I would definitely recommend the Connect with Your Child course. It will bring peace and understanding to your parenting. I loved the explanations Karen used while describing the behaviour interpretation. She also helped to change my mindset about parenting in a very practical way. She is able to explain the topic easily and understandably within the context of everyday situations.
I am so happy with your course. It makes me think so much about my relationships at home (and also outside) and it motivates me to change. I really want to thank you for guiding us through this huge positive transformation in our way to see and feel the world.
The transition from primary school to high school, in parallel to quarantine, reduced working hours and having building work done, pushed me to my limits with my two children. Now I reflect more than before and can see the needs behind the behaviour. After the first sparks fly, I’m able shift into an empathic response relatively quickly. It’s worth it and the course fee is better invested than in buying new clothes.
Karen is providing digestible and concise content, and makes it personal with examples from her own experience. The task sheets are so valuable because you find out lots about your own struggles and triggers. She gives you tools to work with your own anger and how to fulfil your unmet needs so you can be there to support your children as good as possible. I would recommend this course to anyone who would like to communicate without judgement and to make this world a friendlier place.
The course was very valuable for me. After just one module, I was able to see our daily routine and the way our child was behaving in a different light. I could see why she was behaving in that way and understand what she really needed. We made a small adjustment to our daily routine, which had the big effect that now I and my kids can start our day less stressed, happier and feeling more connected to each other.
Totally fabulous! You are really wonderful; very approachable, easy to connect with online. I felt immediately comfortable being vulnerable with you about my parenting insecurities, and trusted your experience. It’s clear that you are a pro, you asked very insightful and clarifying questions. I felt immediately understood and supported, and left with real and actionable info.
Working with Karen really helped me!
Karen’s very likeable and had a way of making me feel very comfortable. As a coach, she not only shared her knowledge but saw me as as a person. She connected with me on a personal level, which enabled me to build trust. She was well prepared for our sessions and introduced each topic thoughtfully, which I think is really important when talking about emotional topics like children, being a mum, and relationships. She listened carefully to me and was attuned to my way of thinking. Karen has a great deal of expert knowledge and offered new ways of seeing things that all made a lot of sense to me. I left our coaching sessions with lots of new ways of thinking as well as a concrete idea of what I could do differently in our everyday family life. I always felt as though she was listening to me and that she was hearing me. That was very helpful and exactly what I want as a client.
It feels like we – my son and I – have less battles following the course. I always try to keep in mind that he wants to cooperate with me and that opens up other perspectives: to stop for a moment, respond to my child, see what’s going on with him, see his feelings, just to enjoy him….
Thank you for the support and helpful tips for a more connected and respectful family life!It’s been a great learning curve and probably will be for a good while… but the positive outcome is the best motivation!
The course changed our family life, my relationship with my husband and with our daughter, for the better. I’m very happy and grateful that I was able to participate in your course. I had a lot of ahas in the last few weeks. In the last few months, I felt completely lacking in peace and calm, but was able to find it again in your course. I’ve noticed I can see many situations differently and understand my daughter more, which makes me feel better, lighter and happier.
I got a lot of new ideas on how to better connect with my child. The course also explained the difference between the old way of raising children with punishment and a new way with connection. It was mind blowing!
Can highly recommend! Karen’s great!
I wanted to improve how my son and I communicated. I now observe him more. When he gets angry, I’m able to keep calm. I feel more confident and more understood. I got a lot of food for thought, tips and also reassurance. It was definitely worth it. I really enjoyed it.