Hi, I’m Karen
So nice to meet you!
Remember what it felt like when you were expecting your first child? The excitement and anticipation of starting a family and holding your little bundle of joy for the first time.
And your deepest desire to do everything right.
There are many things we’re not prepared for when we become parents…
Your bundle of joy can be giggling and cuddling in your arms one minute, then turn into a bundle of fury the next because you gave them the wrong colour spoon.
Tweens declare they don’t need you any more, then climb into bed next to you and snuggle up close.
It can be overwhelming to have responsibility for the well-being of a tiny human being (or several!) who needs you day and night.
There are times you don’t recognise yourself, you act and react in ways you never thought you would struggling to meet the demands of everyday life as a family.
The more you try to fulfil the role expected of you as a parent, the more you feel removed from yourself.
You can love and feel love with an intensity you never knew was possible. And anger, guilt, anxiety and shame, too.
I’ve been there
I’m a certified parent and family coach, and a mum to three amazing tweens: a son and twin daughters born not quite two years apart (yes – three under two!).
I know that being a parent is the most wonderful, rewarding and joyful experience – and also more challenging, overwhelming, physically and emotionally demanding than anything you’ve ever done before.
I know what it’s like to want to have a loving and connected relationship with your kids, and to feel overwhelmed trying to be the perfect parent.
It’s all about the relationship
Through my 12 years as a parent, my educational-psychological training and working with parents, I believe that having loving, peaceful and joyful relationships with your kids is about three things:
- Understanding child development, why kids act the way they do and what they need to grow up healthy and capable
- Developing self awareness around your own beliefs, emotions and unmet needs that stand in the way of you being the parent you want to be, and
- Choosing connection.
Choosing connection means making the kind of relationship you want to have with your child the focus of your beliefs, thoughts, choices and actions as a parent.
Choosing connection also means connecting, or reconnecting, with yourself. It means understanding the part your own beliefs play in the way you’re able to connect with your child, learning to know, love, trust and believe in yourself, healing your inner child and giving yourself permission to be perfectly imperfect.
Your beliefs, emotions and habits nourish or burden the relationships you have with your kids. When you choose connection, your relationships, your kids, your family, and you, will thrive.
Choose connection over coercion, shift from reacting to responding, go for intention over perfection.
It’s possible for kids to grow up kind, responsible and resourceful without coercion, power struggles, endless discussions, threats, bribes, time-outs, “tough love”- discipline and punishment.
In fact, building strong relationships with your kids based on (self-!) empathy, respect, kindness and trust, and developing resources to handle emotions constructively, gives your kids the best start in life and provides you with a rock-solid foundation to meet and overcome the challenges of everyday family life, even – and especially – on the hard days.
This is the basis of my work. It’s grounded in a fundamental shift in the way we see children and the parent-child relationship, in self-awareness and empathy, choosing connection over coercion, shifting from reacting to responding, going for intention over perfection, and backed by child development research and neuroscience.
I don’t have all the answers. I have chaotic and crappy days, conflicts and difficult situations just like all of us. And I’m passionate and committed to sharing my knowledge and experience, and enabling other parents to find their answers for a calm, joyful and peaceful family life.
If you’re looking for new ways to connect with your kids, to handle difficult situations differently or want support building strong, constructive relationships in your family, you’ve come to the right place.
The families I work with tell me that parent coaching is a game changer and continues to enrich their family life long after our work together. If you want to know more, see what other parents say below.
You don’t need to do it alone.
I believe that if we can find peace and joy on our parenthood journey, it’ll change our lives, our children’s lives and the world.
Because when we develop self-awareness and self-compassion, we treat our kids respectfully, with empathy, kindness and compassion. And they develop the skills to treat others with respect, empathy, kindness and compassion, too.
When we understand and help them handle their feelings and emotional needs, they learn self-awareness, self-esteem and resilience.
By working on our own self-awareness, we help our kids learn problem solving and conflict resolution. Not only do these skills make for a more connected and peaceful family life but they are the skills our world desperately needs in future generations.
Want to know more about me?
Here are some random titbits for you…
I love children (and working with their parents and families) and believe that conventional beliefs around parenting and discipline do us all more harm than good. In my work, I focus on empathy, a peaceful, gentle and conscious approach to parenting and (family) life. Good for kids, good for parents, good for society and good for the world.
I was born in England where I grew up near the sea, which is my most favourite place in the world and my go-to place when I need to tank up on energy and centre myself.
I came to Germany as a young graduate and married a German. My passion for languages, different countries and cultures goes back to my school days, when I learned and then studied languages. Now I get to live my linguist-self’s dream, see my kids grow up bilingually and be a part of the adventure that is family life across two languages, countries and cultures.
I love doing jigsaw puzzles. First the edge pieces, then fill in from there. That’s why I love my work. Looking at what’s happening on the outside (typically a particular behaviour or habit), then starting to piece together what’s on the inside (beliefs, feelings and emotional needs). The edges provide a framework for understanding what’s on the inside and how it all fits together. It’s so satisfying to see the full picture take shape.
As a student, I had a string of different jobs to finance my studies. I ran our college bar (good move as it kept me behind rather than in front of it), made record sales on the Boots perfume counter (selling last-minute gifts on Christmas Eve) and I was a Royal Mail postwoman (where a very happy home owner once gave me a big bar of chocolate for delivering her winning bond letter). Most satisfying was my work with kids on a Sports R Us holiday programme. This work not only saw me through my next term at college but it was so rewarding to see how the young people who arrived sullen and often aggressive in the mornings would blossom throughout the day once they experienced that someone was interested in them, accepted them for who they were, spent time with them and valued them as part of the team.
I’m a big Harry Potter fan and lucky enough that my kids and husband are too. We once spent the whole day from first admission to gates closing at Universal Harry Potter World casting spells and drinking butter beer in Diagon Alley.
A Find your perfect job quiz at school concluded I should be a librarian. Looking at my bookshelves and the number of books I have today, this may not have been so far off. I have a unique collection of Jane Austen, 18th century French philosophers, 20th century modernists, dictionaries, travel guides, Harry Potter, self development and neuroscience, parenting, as well as everything and anything that Brené Brown writes.
I’ve been a full-time working professional in a global corporation, a part-time working mum and a stay-at-home mum. Today I’m a business owner and work-from-home mum. We don’t have grandparents or extended family living near us and I know the reality of work-family-life balance, being a parent and family without a big family network close by.
I’m passionate about learning, self-directed education, human potential and changing the paradigm in adult-child relationships in educational settings. As a family, we’re active in the community of the self-directed school our kids attend and through my work, I’m proud to support projects and organisations that are doing amazing work for children, families and our planet with 10% of all profits.
I love to travel. I’ve been lucky enough to see some beautiful places in our world. I love being in nature and in big cities. London’s home and Berlin’s like visiting a good friend. Travelling with my family is one of my greatest joys and I have a very long list of places I still want to see in my lifetime.
I love my work! I love connecting with people, sharing stories and experiences, and I love the science and research that is so important when it comes to understanding our kids and ourselves, how our brains work, what emotional well-being means for our health (and the health of our society). I love seeing the difference it can make to people’s lives – parents, families, their kids and ultimately humankind – when we change the way we parent and enable each and every one of us to lead peaceful, intentional, fulfilling and joyful lives.
Does that sound like something you want too? Join me here.
What other parents say about working with me
Totally fabulous! You are really wonderful; very approachable, easy to connect with online. I felt immediately comfortable being vulnerable with you about my parenting insecurities, and trusted your experience. It’s clear that you are a pro, you asked very insightful and clarifying questions. I felt immediately understood and supported, and left with real and actionable info.
Working with Karen really helped me!
Karen’s very likeable and had a way of making me feel very comfortable. As a coach, she not only shared her knowledge but saw me as as a person. She connected with me on a personal level, which enabled me to build trust. She was well prepared for our sessions and introduced each topic thoughtfully, which I think is really important when talking about emotional topics like children, being a mum, and relationships. She listened carefully to me and was attuned to my way of thinking. Karen has a great deal of expert knowledge and offered new ways of seeing things that all made a lot of sense to me. I left our coaching sessions with lots of new ways of thinking as well as a concrete idea of what I could do differently in our everyday family life. I always felt as though she was listening to me and that she was hearing me. That was very helpful and exactly what I want as a client.
Karen’s very empathetic and a great coach who finds wonderful words.
The course was very valuable for me. After just one module, I was able to see our daily routine and the way our child was behaving in a different light. I could see why she was behaving in that way and understand what she really needed. We made a small adjustment to our daily routine, which had the big effect that now I and my kids can start our day less stressed, happier and feeling more connected to one another.
Our meeting was so, so fabulous, and I’ve found the paradigm shifts that we discussed really informing my mindset during some challenging behaviors/emotional states that have come up around the end of the school year! So fantastic!
The work Karen’s doing is changing the world for the better!
Karen’s a great personality! I know few people who communicate so respectfully with children. She really helped me with my concerns.
Can highly recommend! Karen’s great!