I’ve been there
I’m a certified parent and family coach and a mum to three amazing children – a teenage son and pre-teen twin daughters born not quite two years apart. Yes – three under two!
I know what it’s like to want to have loving, connected and trusting relationships with your kids.
I know that being a parent is the most wonderful, rewarding and joyful experience – and also more challenging, overwhelming, physically and emotionally demanding than anything you’ve ever done before.
Maybe you’re triggered by your child’s behaviour and don’t understand why they’re acting the way they do – or why you react the way you do.
It’s all about the relationship
Through my years as a parent, my educational-psychological training and working with parents, I believe having peaceful, deeply connected and joyful relationships with your kids is about three things::
- Understanding child development, why kids act the way they do and what they need to grow up healthy and capable
- Developing self awareness around your own beliefs, pattern, habits and unmet needs that stand in the way of you being the parent you want to be, and
- Choosing connection.
Choosing connection is making the kind of relationship you want to have with your child the focus of your interactions with your child, your beliefs, thoughts, choices and actions as a parent.
Choosing connection is connecting with yourself. It means understanding the role your own beliefs play in the way you’re able to connect with your child, learning to recognise and acknowledge your own needs, knowing, loving, trusting and believing in yourself, re-connecting with your inner child, and giving yourself permission to be perfectly imperfect.
Choose connection over coercion, shift from reacting to responding,
go for intention over perfection.
It’s possible for kids to grow up kind, responsible and resourceful without coercion, power struggles, endless discussions, threats, bribes, time-outs, “tough love”- discipline and punishment.
In fact, building strong relationships with your kids based on (self-!) empathy, respect, kindness and trust, and developing resources to handle emotions constructively, gives your kids the best start in life and provides you with a rock-solid foundation to meet and overcome the challenges of everyday family life, even – and especially – on the hard days.
This is the basis of my work. It’s grounded in a fundamental shift in the way we see children and the parent-child relationship, in self-awareness and empathy, choosing connection over coercion, shifting from reacting to responding, going for intention over perfection, and backed by child development research and neuroscience.
I don’t have all the answers. I have chaotic and crappy days, conflicts and difficult situations just like all of us. And I’m passionate and committed to sharing my knowledge and experience, and enabling other parents to find their answers for a calm, joyful and peaceful family life.
If you’re looking for new ways to connect with your kids, to handle difficult situations differently or want support building strong, constructive relationships in your family, you’ve come to the right place.
The families I work with tell me that parent coaching is a game changer and continues to enrich their family life long after our work together. If you want to know more, see what other parents say below.
You don’t need to do it alone.
I believe that if we can find peace and self-awareness on our parenthood journey, it’ll change our lives, the lives of our children and the world for the better.
Because when we develop self-awareness and self-compassion, we treat our kids respectfully, with empathy, kindness and compassion. And they develop the skills to treat others with respect, empathy, kindness and compassion, too.
When we understand and help them handle their feelings and emotional needs, they learn self-awareness, self-esteem and resilience.
By working on our own self-awareness, we help our kids learn problem solving and conflict resolution. Not only do these skills make for a more connected and peaceful family life but they are the skills our world desperately needs in future generations.